CHRISTINA WING

Learn how to talk about the taboo subjects people

Avoid
Hint At
Plan Around
Leave Unsaid
Unspeakable: The Taboo Topics We Avoid and How to Talk About Them

AVAILABLE

OCT 20

People often know which subjects matter. What they do not always know is how to discuss them without sounding greedy, disrespectful, disloyal, intrusive, or unkind.

Unspeakable offers stories, scripts, questions, and tools for approaching those conversations with greater preparation and judgment.

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MONEY. AGING. INHERITANCE. DEATH. RELIGION. PERFORMANCE. MISTAKES. POLITICS. SUCCESSION. FEAR. FAMILY CONFLICT. FAILURE. MONEY. AGING. INHERITANCE. POWER. FAMILY CONFLICT. FAILURE.

WHAT IS AN UNSPEAKABLE?

An Unspeakable is a taboo or sensitive subject people know matters, but do not know how—or do not feel free—to discuss openly.

It may be the parent whose will no one wants to ask about.

The leader whose age may be affecting the role.

The mistake everyone knows happened, but no one is willing to take responsibility for.

The subject is not necessarily hidden. It may be hinted at, discussed privately, or already influencing decisions—just not with the people most affected.

So people wait for a better moment. They hope someone else will bring it up. In the meantime, plans form without shared information, decisions are made around people rather than with them, and the conversation happens too late—or only after circumstances force it.

The question is not only, “Is this difficult?” It is, “What has made this subject feel off-limits—and what would make it possible to discuss before assumptions shape the outcome?”

People often hesitate because bringing it up may sound…

GREEDY

DISRESPECTFUL

DISLOYAL

INTRUSIVE

Accusatory

UNKIND

GREEDY

DISRESPECTFUL

DISLOYAL

INTRUSIVE

Accusatory

UNKIND

GREEDY

DISRESPECTFUL

DISLOYAL

INTRUSIVE

Accusatory

UNKIND

CHRISTINA WING

Helping families, leaders, organizations, and students talk about the taboo subjects already shaping their decisions.

Across Harvard Business School classrooms and her advisory work with business-owning families, Christina has seen how often the formal decision is only part of the conversation.

Questions about succession, ownership, performance, money, and responsibility become more difficult when age, readiness, fear, family history, or what happens next feel too personal to discuss openly.

That experience—along with the conversations her own family never had—led Christina to write Unspeakable: a practical, case-led guide to understanding why certain subjects become taboo and finding a thoughtful way to bring them into the conversation.

Christina Wing

HARVARD BUSINESS SCHOOL FACULTY

AUTHOR OF UNSPEAKABLE

FOUNDER, WINGSPAN LEGACY PARTNERS

TOPICS EXPLORED

Age, retirement, and succession

Failures, mistakes, and apologies

Death, estate planning, and inheritance

Work-family conflict

Money

Fear

Age, retirement, and succession

Failures, mistakes, and apologies

Death, estate planning, and inheritance

Work-family conflict

Money

Fear

Age, retirement, and succession

Failures, mistakes, and apologies

Death, estate planning, and inheritance

Work-family conflict

Money

Fear

Age, retirement, and succession

Failures, mistakes, and apologies

Death, estate planning, and inheritance

Work-family conflict

Money

Fear

Layoffs, firings, and unemployment

Ownership and governance

Religion and race

Politics

How to have the conversation

Layoffs, firings, and unemployment

Ownership and governance

Religion and race

Politics

How to have the conversation

Layoffs, firings, and unemployment

Ownership and governance

Religion and race

Politics

How to have the conversation

Layoffs, firings, and unemployment

Ownership and governance

Religion and race

Politics

How to have the conversation

WHAT READERS WILL FIND

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Scripts for the conversations people most want to avoid

live_help

Reflection questions to clarify what is really at stake

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Conversation starters for taboo and sensitive topics

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Practical tools for preparing before the stakes are highest

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Stories that show what silence can cost — and what becomes possible when people begin

Christina Wing pairs vivid stories with clear scripts to show us how to talk about money, power, succession, layoffs, politics, and more in ways that build trust rather than secrecy or fear.

Amy C. Edmondson

Amy C. Edmondson

Novartis Professor of Leadership and Management, Harvard Business School Author, Right Kind of Wrong: The Science of Failing Well (Atria, 2023)

Unspeakable is both profound and practical. It is for everyone who cares about their effectiveness and their legacy.

Jim Koch

Jim Koch

Founder, Chairman, CEO and President, Boston Beer Company

Read Unspeakable and start finding the trust and depth you want from your relationships.

Arthur C. Brooks

Arthur C. Brooks

#1 New York Times bestselling author of The Meaning of Your Life

When we avoid uncomfortable topics, the results can be catastrophic. Professor Wing will help you have the conversations you want to avoid but need to have.

Kim Scott

Kim Scott

Author of Radical Candor

I can’t stop talking about Christina Wing’s Unspeakable. This timeless and beautifully written gem helped me understand why it is so hard — and so crucial — to talk about forbidden topics such as money, aging, failure, and family conflict.

Robert I. Sutton

Robert I. Sutton

Stanford Professor Emeritus and bestselling author of The No Asshole Rule and The Friction Project

Christina Wing has written a brilliant and empathetic book about the devastation that can result when we don’t say things that need to be said. Unspeakable is a blueprint for how to make our professional—and personal—relationships deeper and better.

Bethany McLean

Bethany McLean

Contributing editor at Vanity Fair and bestselling co-author of The Smartest Guys in the Room

The Cost of Silence

Christina speaks to leaders, families, boards, and organizations about the taboo and sensitive subjects that influence decisions long before they are discussed openly.

Drawing on experience in investment banking, family-office leadership, Harvard Business School classrooms, and advisory work through Wingspan Legacy Partners, she helps audiences recognise when private assumptions are replacing shared understanding—and offers practical questions and language for putting the real subject into the conversation.

Her talks bring the cases, insights, and tools of Unspeakable to life.

Speaking & Media Inquiries

SPEAKING TOPICS

THE UNSPEAKABLES: AGE, RETIREMENT, & SUCCESSION / MONEY, ESTATE PLANNING, & INHERITANCE / WORK-FAMILY CONFLICTS / OWNERSHIP & GOVERNANCE / LAYOFFS, FIRINGS, & UNEMPLOYMENT / FAILURES, MISTAKES, & APOLOGIES / POLITICS

FAMILY OFFICE SETUP / FAMILY BUSINESS RELATIONSHIPS / CHAPTERS OF YOUR LIFE

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